You Don’t know Who You Are
If you don’t know what you want in life, you don’t know who you are, and you’ve missed the point of the Game of Life. And even if you know what you want and can’t choose it, you still don’t know who you are. You can only know who you are when you give yourself the power and the right to choose that new and better life for yourself.
The rule of life that we each live by, the rule that governs our lives is this: we become what we think about. With every thought, you are choosing an attitude, an opinion or a point of view. Those points of view are who you are.
Whether you realize it or not, every time you react in any way, to the circumstances in your life, you are choosing who you will be under those and similar circumstances. By deciding how you will feel and think about something, you are choosing who you will be relative to that subject.
Your reality is not in what’s happening in your life; it is in how you deal with what’s happening.
Our true purpose in life is self-discovery. So, in our quest for knowing the true self, what is it that we’re really looking for? …more than most of us suspect, actually.
You and I are individualizations of a God who experiences life in and through us as us. Our true purpose, therefore, is to become more and more consciously aware of this truth and then to learn how to tap into and use that inner power constructively.
We activate the self-discovery process every time we amp up our courage and choose out of the old box with a new BEING choice. You see, this power of God show up in us as the power to choose who we will BE. By making a new BEING commitment, we create a brand new reality, and with it, comes a whole new level of consciousness.
Once we’ve activated the BEING principle with a BEING choice - (we become what we think about), we trigger another of God’s spiritual laws into motion, The Law of Attraction. This law makes sure that everything and everyone in our lives is a perfect match for who we are being.
Notice that this law was in effect for your last BEING choice. So, take a long hard look at who showed up in your life and realize that each of them belongs with you as a result of who you are BEING.
The true value in our relationships is to give us the opportunity to experience BEING who we are. Each relationship serves us, by mirroring back at us, some aspect of our way of being.
So, if you don’t like what you see in the other person, go ahead and point a finger at him or her, and then notice when you do, that the other three fingers point back at you. If you don’t like who and what you’ve attracted into your life, do some soul searching and make a new BEING choice.
A true friend creates the space for you to be yourself and to like yourself in that relationship.
If you don’t have a relationship that fits this True Friendship definition, you may want to rethink your alliances and give yourself permission to have at least one real friend!
Your number one responsibility, in any relatinship, is to get to know yourself through being YOU at all costs in that relationship.
Your number two responsibility is to provide a non judgmental “freedom to BE” space for your friend. Only this quality support in a relationship gives you and your friend the opportunity to find and BE your true selves!
Believe me! Having a True Friend show up in your life, is one of life’s grand prizes truly worth the winning. Just remember, the first rule in having a true friend, is in being one.
As a true friend you must be able to:
The True Value of BEING in relationships is that they provide the space and the opportunities we need to experience being who we are. Without those relationships we would have no mirrors in which to ourselves. And with each and every relationship, we get to see a different aspect of our own BEING.
Our true purpose in life is to grow in consciousness, to become more and more aware of who we really are and to be empowered by that greater sense of awareness.
The problems you and I face in life, are the stepping stones that move us to the higher ground on the other side of that problem. And our relationships serve the purpose of reflecting back at us who we are being during the growing process.
Take a close look at what each of your relationships tell you, at what you see in each of those mirrors and you’ll gain insight into who you’re being in the moment.
And when you decide to change your mind about who you will be, hopefully, those existing relationships will provide the space you’ll need for that change of heart.
Life keeps confronting you with circumstances designed to move you to the point of choosing, so that in choosing, you will come to know who you are. You see, that’s the only way you will discover who you are, by rediscovering your power of choice, by choosing.
CHOCOLATE OR VANILLA? - The question I hear over and over again is, “How do I choose?” The problem with that question is, there’s no “HOW” to it, you just choose.
To see why I say that, imagine yourself at the ice cream counter with 31 flavors from which to choose. Now, ask yourself, “How do I choose?” Silly question, isn’t it?
In fact, life is set up so that you can’t hide from choosing. Given whatever circumstance, you are faced with a choice, and you MUST make it. When you cop out, when you try to hide from choosing, you are still choosing; you’re choosing not to choose.
The Game of Life is about CHOICE, nothing more, nothing less. You choose who to BE. I MEAN REALLY CHOOSE, and once you do, everything that belongs to you will come to you automatically.
Notice that you’ve already chosen and you already have everything that belongs to you as a result of that choice. So, it works. Doesn’t it?
The Game of Life is about choosing. Those of us who try to avoid making choices, are kidding ourselves, because choosing not to choose, is a choice.
If you stopped to think about it, you would be amazed at the number of choices we make each day without realizing that we are choosing. You and I are making choices every moment of our lives about how we will deal with (how we will react to) life’s circumstances. We are choosing who we will be under those circumstances, whether we realize it or not.
Our whole reality is built out of attitudes, opinions and points of view. Our expereince of life is determined by how we choose to react to the circumstances in our lives, and our attitude sets the stage for our reactions. What you need to realize is that you chose your attitude and your attitude chooses your life.
We give away our power on a daily basis by telling ourselves victim stories. You’ll see how many victim stories you have when you start paying attention. With each story we tell, we give up personal power.
What’s wrong with complaining, is that your victim story implies that you are powerless to solve the problem. And that’s not true! You are not powerless! You have the power of the Universe behind your word and by telling yourself a victim story, you’ve used that power to render yourself powerless.
Here are some examples of victim stories:
- The wind really upsets me
- Its too hot or I hate cold weather
- I hate it when he/she does that
- I’m in a hurry and that person in front of me is driving too slow
- I can’t get use to Daylight Saving Time
Pay attention to your thoughts. Your complaining or making excuses for why your life isn’t working, is a victim story.
Your first step in halting the power drain, is to begin to recognize your excuses or complaints for what they really are — disempowering victim stories. Make it your intention to stop the power drain! Notice how you’ve given your power away to something as insignificant as the weather or a slow driver! Take back your power and see how much more powerful you feel. You can’t change the weather but you can change your response to it. You can’t make someone drive faster or get out of the way, but you can calm and relax yourself to the point where it doesn’t matter anymore. If you do you might even find that traffic opens up for you and you have a great drive to wherever you are going. Try it, what could it hurt.
Your true purpose in life is to discover who you really are, to come to know that you are, in fact an individualization of a God who experiences life in and through you as you. So, how does being a victim help you find that inner power? Being a victim empowers you only in that moment when you choose consciously to give up your role as a victim.
In the Game of Life our self-worth, a major part of our self-image, sets the level for the quality of our lives.
Our self-image is the concept we have of ourselves, an assessment of our qualities and abilities. Our self-worth is the value we place on that assessment. Raising the bar on our self-worth a notch or two allows us to play the Game of Life at the next level and have the life that JUST NATURALLY goes with playing the game at that higher level.
So, what is it that you want from life that you don’t have? Think about that want for a moment and then ask yourself, “Why don’t I already have it? What’s keeping me from just choosing to live my life more abundantly in that way, right now?”
If you don’t know, I have an answer for you. The reason you can’t choose the good life right now is because you live in a box. We all do. That box is your concept of reality. What you want from life that you don’t have is outside that box.
What’s keeping you in that box? Your concept of reality sets the limit on what you may have in your life. And your reality concept also sets the pattern for your thinking.
But here’s the paradox. Your way out of that box will require some out-of-the box thinking, but a powerful part of you doesn’t want you going there.
You see, God gave you and I the power to choose who we would be, but He also gave us our egos as the means by which we would experience the reality of our BEING choice. The paradox of our lives is that once ego takes on the job of maintaining the current reality, a part of its job is to prevent our choosing out of that box and into a new reality. Now you know why you’re stuck in that box.
Imagine you were cleaning a lamp and a genie pops out, offering to grant you one wish. “You have 3 minutes to make up your mind”, he says.
You think about all the things you could ask for that would allow you to live life more abundantly and give you the time freedom to enjoy the good life. Then you tell the genie, “I know, grant me the power to have everything I want.”
And the genie responds with, “How can I give you want you already have?”
It is a simple fact of life that God gave you and I the power to answer our own prayers, in giving us the power to choose who we would be. We have this awesome power because we are each individualizations of a God who experiences life in and through us as us. Out mission in life is to wake up to that reality!